17th Aug, 2009

Troubles and Tribulation

I can’t think of anyone being so cruel and mean as to take a mother’s rose she placed on her son’s grave, but it has happened again and again. I took a rose to Russell’s grave after just having eye surgery. Lowell tried to get me not to exert myself by going there, but I told him I wanted to put the rose on Russell’s grave.  I get really emotional putting flowers on his grave, to have them stolen off with such hateful spite. I guess this is a mother thing, the emotional stuff.

I love Russell with all my heart and soul. Lowell loved his son with a great passion too, and it has really been hard on him. We love Russell so much, and  will never get over his death! No one else cares enough to go there and place flowers and keep his grave looking nice. His life meant nothing to anyone but his Dad and I.

When Lowell and I went there Sunday, we found they had not only taken his orange carnations from his bronze vase, along with the yellow rose I had laid on his grave. I was really upset with this! This is just spiteful and evil! What right do they have to do this?

I know the only way we will ever get any peace, is to get him moved. I have the permission, if I can get them to release his body. It is never too late. I want to go through the right channels now, because I gave them the chance to release his body. I just wish they would realize it will eventually be a bigger mess if we do not get our son’s body and bring him home.

I intend to keep trying to get Russell moved, but if I can’t there will still come the day Russell will rise from that grave to meet Jesus in the air. Russell was a Christian and loved the Lord, he was just so mixed up by the people around him. He was a sinner, and so are we all! 

We believe these people just want to hurt us because we did not uphold the homosexual lifestyle. We believe Kevin and his parents buried Russell there for one thing, because it was cheap. Kevin had manipulated the truth to where he would get what Russell had.  We believe the results of the whole case shows Kevin did what he set out to do.

The insurance taken out on Russell’s life, puts a question in our minds as to the motives for his being given the HIV virus.  We have also wondered if the will was made after Russell died. So many things just don’t add up in the whole case. Who had what to gain! There was so many things the lawyer refused to use, and this was not right. The court case was a farce, we were betrayed by our lawyer by his not using the evidence we had in the right way.

We believe Russell had no say in his burial! One statement the lawyer could have used that Kevin made, was Russell stated “he did not care where he was buried”. This statement was made in front of the Judge. This told us Russell was most likely, we believe harassed about being buried, and he just made that statement. Even if this is not the way it happened, it told us Russell had not wanted to be buried in that woods in a pine box. Russell most likely wanted to be buried where we were to be buried. We would have given Russell a decent burial.

We believe from what we read in the interrogatories, (something the Judge was supposed to go by, but this was not even used in court) there was another will was made by him before he got so sick. In this statement by Kevin, he said they made wills together. In the deposition of the one of the witnesses to the purported will, (that was to have been made in the hospital by Kevin and two of his friends who were the witnesses) said no other wills were made at the time. Russell’s being incompetent when this purported will was made, was proven by medical expert. 

The lawyer mentioned this, but did not elaborate on it. The medical expert’s testimony was not even used by our own attorney. The Judge was supposed to have went by the interrogatories to be informed about such as this.

Lowell’s sister wrote us a letter after we had told her of what was going on at Russell grave. She told us, the people (the Friends) who were taking our decorations from Russell’s grave, would one day walk down that hill and see that grave opened up and empty. Russell’s body would not be there, and they would be “shaking and quaking.” By this she meant, the rapture would have taken place. We learned from our conversations with these people, they do not believe in the rapture). This is their choice, but we do believe God’s Word.

I Thessalonians 4:14  For if we believe that Jesus died and rose again, even so them also which sleep in Jesus will God bring with him.

I Thessalonians 4:15  For this we say unto you by the word of the Lord, that we which are alive and remain unto the coming of the Lord shall not prevent them which are asleep.

I Thessalonians 4:16  For the Lord himself shall descend from heaven with a shout, with the voice of the arch-angel and with the trump of God; and the dead in Christ shall rise first;

Lowell and I know one day Russell’s grave will open and he will rise to meet Christ in the air. Russell loved the Lord, and believed he died on the Cross and rose again to be with the Father until his second coming. Russell was led astray by a false religion though, in order for him to accept his sinful behavior. Nothing they can do will stop his rising from the grave when Jesus returns. This will irritate them by me saying this, but it is Biblical. I just hope it makes people stop and think about Christ’s swift return.

I Thessalonians 5:2  For yourselves know perfectly that the day of the Lord so cometh as a thief in the night.

I Thessalonians 5:22 Abstain from all appearance of evil,

II Timothy 2:12 If we suffer, we shall also reign with him: if we deny him, he also will deny us:

II Timothy 3:12 Yea, and all that will live godly in Christ Jesus shall suffer persecution.

This verse in the Bible that shows God is the avenger is: I Thessalonians 4:6 That no man go beyond and defraud his brother in any matter; because that the Lord is the avenger of all such, as we also have forewarned you and testified.

When I looked further to get the meaning of this verse right, I found in the commentary that Paul was telling the  apostles about what he had warned them concerning persecutions, saying to be forewarned to be forarmed…He talks about their persecutions not coming merely from the enemies of religion, but by the appointment of God. If their faith did not fail and they stood steadfast, they would be able to with stand the tempter and all his temptations.

I believe all the tribulations we have gone through have a purpose, and I will stand firm in my faith, no matter what. I know God is with me, and that is what counts. Our faith has been tested, and I know there is yet more to come. The thing people have a hard time understanding is, they cannot hurt others and not have to suffer….so many people live for themselves and have not thought of how they hurt others. It is beyond anything I can comprehend as to how these people who call themselves religious, ( of course there ares religions, but Christianity is the only way to Heaven).You cannot be evil and go to Heaven……like what these people did to Russell and his family.

I  think a lot about what is  going on with this new partner of Kevin’s, and what how much I would love to talk to him. I just hope he gets out of the situation before it is too late!

When all of this is over and I reach the end of my journey, I want to be able to say as in II Timothy4:7 I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith…

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

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