27th Jun, 2008

The tears keep flowing……

How awful it is, to lose a child……..the pain never stops? 

We are still struggling, to be able to go to our son’s grave and grieve…… 

Having  to deal with the heartbreak of these people robbing his grave site of anything we put there is devastating. One day this is going to stop, I will never give up on getting my son moved.

We still continue to place his picture there, and they always take it off. It hurts to leave Russell’s grave, but to leave without seeing his grave-site looking nice, and his picture there, would be even harder.

We cannot put nice things there anymore for them to take, because they have delighted in taking our mementos in order to hurt us and control us. Control is what it is all about.

Russell should not be buried in a place like this, we know where he wanted to be buried. The papers that were signed, when he was not competent, does not prove he wanted to be buried there.

This burial was his partner’s idea….no matter what the gay activists say on the Internet, we proved Russell was not competent to sign any papers when they were purported to have been signed. We believe this was all underhanded, to keep control of Russell even after his death. God is in control of Russell, and no one is in control of him now. His earthly remains should have been given to his parents, who gave birth to him.

Nothing about Russell and his life, means anything to anyone except his parents. I think we proved our love for our son, his partner profited from his death, and his parents lost about all they had, just trying to get him buried properly and away from that place.

The gay activists have to spread all of this garbage, to help with the gay agenda. Trying to further the same-sex marriage. I hate them dragging Russell’s name through the mud. Russell was a very private, quiet person, who would have been very upset with these actions.

 We just try to go on each day and grieve for our son.

When we arrive at Russell’s  grave, it is horrible to see the things taken off. On Father’s day, we found someone had placed flowers there,(which was odd) no one else has placed flowers there, except for one time since he died in 2004.

The flowers in 2005 were left in the bronze vase for several months, until they disintegrated. We left them alone, and finally someone took them off. They were constantly taking our things during that time, and leaving the dead flowers there. We documented with pictures and diary about this.

On Friday before Father’s day, on Sunday, I had placed a red rose on Russell’s grave, as I often do. When we went there on Sunday, someone had picked up my rose and placed it in with the flowers someone else had put in the vase. I was so torn up, that someone would do this. This rose was placed there, as  symbolic love for my son, and I placed it where I wanted it. They had no right to move the rose, but nothing is sacred to these people.

The same day we saw the flowers, (when they usually take his picture and cross) they had not taken our things off. I guess they thought they had better leave it alone since other flowers had been placed, but it told me that it was most likely someone they knew. This shows how they differentiate.

They just want to harass us. The bronze vase has not been returned, it was taken in January, when we put roses in it for Russell’s birthday. They just threw the roses on the ground and took the vase. We have asked for it back, but we have not been able to get it. It stayed on there for three years, but after the stone was replaced (with a hole for the vase, as before) they decided we could not have the vase there. Kevin was supposed to have put it back.

The flowers that we found at his grave on Father’s day, were in a crockery type of vase.If they had been ours, the people (Friends) would have been taken them or thrown on them on the ground. We took pictures of the flowers and the vase.

Early on, I did not want to use the vase on the other stone that Kevin had put his name on, so I bought a tin vase and buried it in the ground where it would not show, and placed Russell’s roses. They took the vase from his grave and threw the roses on the ground.

When I went there the next day, (driving over sixty miles round trip) I took a wet wipe container and rinsed it out and put the roses back in the ground. They had started dying already.

The next day I went there and the container was frozen to the roses and it had been taken out and thrown on the ground with the container still attached. It was not on Russell’s grave, but at the top of it. That was so horrifying that another human being could be so cruel as to harass a parent for grieving for their child.

The worst was yet to come though.

Usually the roses during January, (his birthday) stay a long time, but when they are thrown around, they are damaged. These roses had a hard time surviving.

They made a set of rules for us, and they disobey them. We have documented the treatment at Russell’s grave that has been just horrible. I feel evil spirits there in those woods where Russell is buried, and since seeing what Kevin and the Religious Society of Friends are doing, (articles that Kevin has put on the Internet) I am not surprised about the evil spirits I feel.  I feel a sweet spirit when I am near Russell’s grave, but the rest of the place scares me.

Kevin is on the Internet talking about dabbling in Wicca, (witchcraft). I have pulled copies of this off of the sites. He says he has found other ways to tap into the divine. Sound familiar! This is all the new age stuff that Oprah is promoting. Hollywood is promoting this, because it allows them to do whatever they want, and feel it is okay.

These beliefs are not okay with God! There is only one way to God, and that is through Jesus Christ, God’s only begotten son, who suffered and died on the cross, rose from the grave on the third day, to go be with the father, until his return to gather the saved. He suffered and died for our sins. If you do not believe this, then you are lost!

All of this heartbreak at our son’s grave is just Satan at work.  

Carolyn Groff

Matthew 4:10 Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thou God and him only shalt thou serve.

Romans 14:11  For it is written, As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.

Romans 14:12  So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God.

Matthew 12:8  Also, I say unto you, Whosoever shall confess me before men, him shall the Son of man also confess before the angels of God.

Matthew 12:8  But he that denieth me before men shall be denied before the angels of God.

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