4th May, 2009

Letter to Jeremy

Jeremy, I have prayed about what you wrote to post on Russell’s website, and how I could respond to you. I have decided not to let you post on Russell’s website. It is not that I am afraid of anything you have to say, but I am not going to let you harass me, nor degrade the site I am trying to promote the truth about Russell’s life.

You  did a good job of spreading your vicious propaganda about us on the Internet, and even writing to people I know. Why can’t you just write me a personal letter? Even better, why don’t you meet with us, and talk about what seems to be some issues you have with us.

If you were a friend of Russell’s, (like many others who wrote slanderous stuff to gain sympathy for Kevin)  you would have respected Russell, and not have degraded his memory by attacking his parents. We know Russell loved us, even though we disagreed with his choice to ruin his life. 

I do not believe the things you said about Russell setting at a gay bar, and slandering us. Kevin went on a hidous campaign to get people to write stuff about us on the Internet and to the Court and our attorneys, so you would not be exempt from that group.

 You seem to know more about our son than we did…..when you were only a bar tender.

As I see it, you are more involved with Kevin than you were with Russell. This is why he contacted you about writing all the lies in your website during the court case. I am sorry you felt this was necessary to do this for Kevin, when you had no idea who we were….very unfair Jeremy.

One thing you did say, “Russell sat at the bar and wrote poetry while everyone else was partying.” I think I am right about this quote, (which may have been frivolous to you) but it told me that Russell was not interested in what others were doing. I hate the whole scenario of his being in a gay bar, but some of the things you said,  made me think he was not there to enjoy it, he was there because Kevin wanted him to be. Like when he was critically ill with AIDS, and Kevin made him get out of his sick bed and go to his (Kevin’s) class reunion. I am sure you have read this on the website.

I will never believe he sat there writing poetry and telling you awful things about his parents, (Russell was not like that).You stated Russell had different colors of hair each week. I think this was a statement made by Kevin, he was good at saying things that were degrading to Russell. Russell never colored his hair, he was home several times a week when he was in college. He always come home to get home cooked meals, and do his laundry. We saw him often, even after his involvement in the homosexual lifestyle. I know you have read what I have written about this, so I won’t go into it again. I do know you did not know who our son was, and being a casual acquaintance like so many, you should not consider yourself the privilege of spreading propaganda about Russell and his parents. This showed us you were doing this for spite, and for what reason other than to help Kevin degrade us.

Russell worked hard getting through college, even after he became involved in this lifestyle. We are glad he went on to finish his college education, and it is a shame it was all a waste…….  With all of Russell’s talents and sparkling personality, he could have been anything he wanted in life. He had goals for his life, but these were thrown aside and wasted just like his precious life was. I blame those who destroyed his precious life, and I will not stop until the truth comes out…….his death was a sinister plot…..What could have been, will never be.

Jeremy, I believe any homosexual can turn his life around. We didn’t know of the resources that may have helped Russell, but we still tried with all my heart and soul to get him out of this dreadful lifestyle. This is what the Olives hated, and they did everything they could to hurt us.

I would like to hear one day that you have turned your life around, and are able to call yourself an ex-homosexual. It is possible! You would find life more rewarding and long lived. You do things that hurt yourself, and others by living this lie. You have parents who hurt, because of the lifestyle you are living. Parents have this great abounding love for their children, when they love enough to say no to this destructive lifestyle. If Russell would have listened to us, he would be alive today.

I would love to know the real story behind the parents you say abandoned you Jeremy. I would come closer to thinking they did not abandon you, you abandoned them because they did not agree with you. You seem to be really out there with the gay activism! I am sure they are hurting for the way you are destroying your life. The one thing about Russell, he did not promote anything to hurt others. He would never have gotton on the Internet and did the trash you do.

Parents don’t stop loving their children and abandon them. I am sure you do not want to be around them, because they love you enough to say no to your lifestyle. You are missing so much by alienating yourself from your parents and family. It is the parents who really love you, and one day you will realize this when you are dying of AIDS. Why can’t you and other gay activists realize this lie about homosexuality. It is a sick distorted sin!

I have prayed so much about this letter and how I could use it to tell you some truths. Others do not want to tell you the truth. I know you don’t want to hear what I have to say about this, but I would pray that these words will stick in your mind. You do not have to live this lie! I know you are an activist, but you can change. You will one day get AIDS, ( hopefully you are not already HIV, or have AIDS) and you will die a horrible death like Russell. No one will remember you, especially the people you think are your friends, (like Kevin). The people who will remember you are your parents, the ones who really love you. The good you do on earth will be your rewards in Heaven, if you are a believer. What you are doing now encouraging others in this lifestyle, is not going to get you there. The blood of many are on the hands of those who propagate this lifestyle.

No matter what you have done, I am sure your parents would forgive you. There is help for you and others who are living this lifestyle. I know you think you are happy, but there is no happiness in living the homosexual lifestyle, because it is not normal. It is a dark, lonely lifestyle, with many heartbreaks because it is not what God wants for your life. I am sure you would never admit the pain you go through within being a homosexual.

God gave you a beautiful life and he does not want you to waste it. He had a purpose for you to serve him, when he created you. You can change, and there are many who will help you. Contact Stephen Bennett Ministries, www.SBMinistries.org and www.gcmwatch.com for some help to change your life. These men know first hand how to change from the homosexual lifestyle, to a normal full filling God ordained life.

With all that being said Jeremy, I feel this will tell you that I am interested in you not suffering the same horrible death Russell did. I loved my son with all my heart, and all the lies that have been told, will have to be answered for. I have a forgiving heart, and even more so, God is a forgiving God. All you have to do is ask, and you shall receive.

I have never misrepresented you, (as you claim)nor any one else I have written about. I would like to talk to you one day and let you know just who we are. I am simply addressing what has been written that were not truths, in hopes of letting everyone know that if you oppose the homosexual lifestyle, you will come under attack.

I know Russell discussed this issue with other people, some who were close to him. One young man I have written about, told me of how much Russell loved us, and how he wanted us to accept his lifestyle. This young man told us of his discussions with Russell, as well as how his parents felt the same way, and struggled with his lifestyle.

Please think about what I have said, and just know I am not trying to hurt anyone by telling the truth. I want to help anyone not to suffer like Russell did.

Lowell and Carolyn Groff

Isaiah 53:4 Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted.

Isaiah 53: 5  But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed.

Isaiah 53: 6 All we like sheep have gone astray; we have turned every one to his own way; and the LORD hath laid on him the iniquity of us all.

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